TO HAVE AND TO HOLD
The original wedding vows state: "I take you . . . TO HAVE AND TO HOLD from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part." The words “to hold” are strong and powerful. What do they mean? What do they mean to you? I’ll share a few thoughts, but I’d love to hear from you too.
1. CONFESS YOUR LOVE AND COMMITMENT CONTINUALLY
The Bible tells us that we hold on to our faith by confessing our faith. I believe this is also a very important way to hold on to our marriage. Confession is a huge part of our every day our lives. We keep what we confess. Therefore, every day remember to say “I love you” to your husband. Many times a day is better. Confess your commitment to your marriage to your husband and to others.
2. ENCOURAGE YOUR HUSBAND DAILY
You can love your husband in your heart. You can think lovely things in your heart, but unless you speak them out they won’t impact his life. Husbands can’t do without encouragement. Encourage him daily.
3. RESPECT AND HONOR YOUR HUSBAND
It is innately within a husband to desire honor from his wife. God made him this way. Seek to show him honor in the little things of life and then it is easier in the big things.
4. DON’T LET ANYTHING GET IN BETWEEN YOU
When Jesus spoke about marriage, He stated the powerful words: “Let no man separate.” The word actually means to let nothing get in between you both. God wants you to be one. Glued together. Therefore, don’t let any relationship (and that includes Facebook relationships--you don’t need men on your Facebook), any church activity, any organization, or any attitude to get in between you.
5. DELIGHT TO COOK FOR HIM
Make it your responsibility to prepare healthy meals for him. Get his breakfast for him. Have a lovely meal ready for him when he comes home each evening. Prepare a lovely and inviting table for him to sit down to each evening. This shows your love to him.
6. DEMONSTRATE YOUR LOVE TO HIM
Touch, cuddle, and kiss and hug him when you see him throughout the day.
7. CONSISTENT SEXUAL INTIMACY
Encourage and solicit constant sexual intimacy with your husband. This is God’s beautiful intention for you and a big part of your marriage relationship. Never deny your husband; instead always welcome him.
I’ll look forward to hearing more from you about your commitment to your marriage vows “to hold” your husband.
Blessings from Nancy Campbell
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