Men, I believe that one of the biggest enemies of godly role modeling our children is anger. Anger is a mood that many men find great difficulty in controlling. This results in much damage to both the psychological and spiritual lives of our wife and children. Uncontrolled anger is a very nasty and devil-inspired evil that is always accompanied by a cloud of darkness. Anger is also a controlling spirit that seeks to drive and push people rather than lead them.
The Holy Spirit leads; the devil drives. It is absolutely wrong for a man to make excuses for uncontrolled anger. Our heavenly Father does get angry at the constant rebellion of His children, but His anger is always in control. Just think of what destruction and devastation God could, with all His power, inflict upon His people if He did not have His anger in control!
It is never right that a wife or children should have to walk around on egg shells in the home, because of fear of upsetting the husband. Shouting, bad language, extreme facial expressions, slamming doors, and pounding of fists on furniture, etc., should not be the testimony of a godly husband and father. These anger expressions reveal an anger which is out of control. This kind of behavior, whether often or occasional, destroys godly role modeling.
Be encouraged.
Colin Campbell