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A true marriage resists all evil. Hebrews 13:4 (NET) says: “Marriage must be honored among all and the marriage bed kept undefiled.” Refuse all flirtations with other men. Refuse all kinky sex. Keep the marriage bed pure and holy.

e) CEDARS ARE FRAGRANT
The cedar exudes a gum which gives off fragrance. Does your marriage exude fragrance like the cedar? I love the quote of John Piper: “There has never been a generation whose view of marriage is high enough.” Our marriages are sacred. Their purpose is to reveal the relationship of Christ and the church—of Christ who laid down His life for the church and the bride who submits to His Lordship. This is a “glorious” thing (Ephesians 5:27).

Can we allow God to work in us to make our marriages a glorious testimony to our families and to all around us?

Be blessed,

Nancy Campbell

Picture: From matrimonio.com.pe

We live in an unprecedented hour in history when divorce is as rampart in the church as it is in the world. How God’s heart must grieve as the beautiful institution of marriage, which He ordained, is attacked and torn apart by the devil. This is not the vision of “lovely homes” which God designed (Numbers 24:5.

How can our marriages last? Only by doing it God’s way. Our selfish flesh continually puts a wrench in the works! “Self” and “selfishness” are the root of all problems in marriage. We must lay down our own rights and embrace the same attitude of Jesus who did not cling to His rights as God. Instead, He made Himself of no reputation. He became a servant, humbled Himself, and was obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross (Philippians 2:6-8). The outworking of this truth in our lives is sufficient to keep a marriage to the end.

Too many people think that love is a feeling. When the feeling dies, they think love has finished. Love is a commitment. It goes beyond feeling. It goes beyond circumstances. Even when we have no vestige of love left within us, God’s inexhaustible love is still available to us. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (MLB) describes the kind of love we need to survive marriage. It is agape love, which starts with: “Love endures long” and ends with “love endures without limit.”

King Solomon used cedar timber to build God’s temple as well as his own palace because of the durability of the wood. God wants our marriages to be built of cedar too, not poplar or untreated pine that does not stand the tests of time.

Build something special into your lasting marriage today. It doesn’t happen without your DOING something.

Love from Nancy Campbell

Enjoy!

I’ll print the words for you too so you can enjoy them as you listen.
You can’t put much weight on one single vine
But you can pull yourself up when two are entwined,
We two became one and True Love grew stronger,
So strong we believed it couldn’t grow any longer.

CHORUS:
But watch our love grow like a body of water
From a fresh springtime rain in the form of our daughter,
Watch our love grow like a good deed we’ve done
That will be passed along with the name of our son,
Watch our love grow.

I’ve seen the mountains, the deserts and seas,
All the latest inventions and cures for diseases,
There’s so many wonders beneath God’s blue skies
But nothing compares to when love multiplies.

This love that we planted will live on and on,
It’ll grow even after we’re gone.

Picture: Pearl and Charlie with their grandson, Warren.

Ezekiel 31:3-7 (NET) is an allegory about Assyria, likening it to a cedar in Lebanon. Think of your marriage growing like the cedar as you read: “Assyria was a cedar in Lebanon, with beautiful branches and forest shade, and of towering height, its top among the clouds . . . the deep made it grow tall . . . it towered high above all the trees of the field.”

We can either stunt our marriage or make it grow. We stunt our marriage by curbing each other. We must release each other into God’s wondrous plan. We let our husbands be men. We don’t expect them to be like us or even think like us. They don’t think like us. Forget it! They are different.

Let your husband be who he is. Let him take the responsibility of his role seriously to provide, protect, and lead you in God’s ways. Don’t take that from him. Many women think they help their husbands by going out to work. That doesn’t help them. It weakens husband’s mandate from God to be the provider
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Let’s get it straight. When we embrace our high calling of motherhood and homemaking and release our husbands to their calling, our marriages can grow tall. Neither of us were created to do the job of the other. God made male and female with their own specific purpose. We accomplish far more for God and this world when we do it God’s way.

Grow your marriage today.

Blessings from Nancy Campbell

The Hebrew word for cedar is erez and means “from the tenacity of its roots.” I read that for every 10 feet of height above the ground, the roots of the cedar go down 30 feet under the ground. Amazingly, the tips of the roots have a substance that allows them to drill through the toughest rocks as they go down deep into the earth.

God wants our marriages to be rooted like this. He wants them to be strongly rooted in God’s principles and the covenant we made on our wedding day. He wants them to be strongly knitted together in commitment, faithfulness, morality, unity, and love. Nothing stopping them.

However, they don’t become strong automatically. We must proactively strengthen them. We must do something to build and strengthen our marriages each new day. With our words and our actions.

Are you doing something tangible to strengthen your marriage today?

More about our “cedar tree” marriages tomorrow.

Blessings from Nancy Campbell

Everything depends on our understanding of truth, on our attitude, and our thought patterns regarding what we do. Live in the truth rather than deception. And your life will change. You’ll enjoy your beautiful life.

And there’s more. God says that you will be rewarded for every good thing you do. You are doing GOOD things, and therefore your reward is coming. Be encouraged. Read these Scriptures:

Romans 2:6-11: “Who will render to every man according to his deeds: To them who by PATIENT CONTINUANCE IN WELL DOING seek for glory and honor and immortality, eternal life: . . . glory, honor, and peace, to every man that worketh GOOD . . . “

Ephesians 6:6-8: “Doing the will of God from the heart; With good will doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men: Knowing that whatsoever GOOD THING any man doeth, the same shall he receive of the Lord.”

Every little good thing you do today is not in vain. It has eternal value.

Be blessed, Nancy Campbell

MORE SCRIPTURES TO READ:
1 Corinthians 3:8, 14; 15:58; 2 Corinthians 5:10; Galatians 6:7-9; Colossians 3:23, 24; and Revelation 22:12.

The words He speaks are: “I have nourished and brought up children, and they have rebelled against me.”

God is the ultimate Father. He is the Father of fathers. He is also the source of all maternal nurturing. He is the ultimate Nourisher and Nurturer.

Dear mother, when you embrace your motherhood--your nurturing and nourishing anointing which comes from the heart of God, you reveal what God is like to your family and to the world.

God is a family God. He is the One who planned marriage and family and the raising of children. God is into the business of raising families. He gathered a family to Himself when He established the race of Israel. They were His children and he poured out his heart of love and compassion upon them.

We see God’s nurturing heart as we read: “Listen to me, O house of Jacob . . . who have been upheld by me from birth, who have been carried from the womb: Even to your old age, I am he, and even to gray hairs I will carry you! I have made, and I will bear; even I will carry, and will deliver you” (Isaiah 46:3, 4).

We read again in Isaiah 64:9, 10: “In all their affliction he was afflicted, and the Angel of his Presence saved them; in his love and in his pity he redeemed them; and he bore them and carried them all the days of old. But they rebelled and grieved his Holy Spirit.”

Did you notice the last words? God says again in Isaiah 65:2: “I have spread out my hands all the day unto rebellious people, which walketh in a way that was not good, after their own thoughts.”

Have our poured out your heart and nourished and nurtured and yet your children have grown up and rebelled? Dearest mother, if you are facing this pain, I want you to know that God understands the grief and ache in your heart. He understands your burden. He has been through it and He knows the anguish of your heart.

But God never gives up. And He will help you to keep fighting the forces of evil in prayer to win your child back into the kingdom.

Be encourage today, Nancy Campbell

I am sure your heart yearns to stop the holocaust of abortion, the dismembering and burning alive of living babies in the womb.

However, I think that the devil, who is the mastermind behind abortion, has hoodwinked those of us who say we are prolife. The devil, who comes to “rob, kill, and destroy,” hates life. His plan goes beyond abortion. The trio he uses to rob, kill, and destroy are contraception, sterilization, and abortion. His first aim is to eradicate life before it is born. Abortion is his back-up plan.

Statistics tells us that clinic abortions are decreasing, but the aborting and stopping of life is increasing. Americans are now being introduced to “mail-to-your-home abortion pills” so mothers can freely annihilate their babies.

The American Life League states that “Using formulas based on the way the birth control pill works, pharmacy experts project that about 14 million chemical abortions occur in the United States each year.” That’s more babies killed through the Pill, and its various associated methods, than through abortion!

Since Roe v. Wade (46 years ago), over 61 million babies have been aborted in USA. If we count the babies that could have been aborted by the Pill from that time it would come to 644 million! Far more than abortion!

Recently my husband was speaking at a church in Louisiana. We were privileged to talk to the pastor of this church who has a passion for saving babies. He wanted to shut down abortion clinics in his area but did not have much success. He cried out to the Lord as to why he didn’t seem to be making a difference. The Lord spoke to him and said, “You are aborting children in your own home. Your wife is taking the Pill.”

He was surprised. He spoke to his wife who was not very happy to hear this news. It took her some time to come to the realization of this truth and to stop taking the Pill. However, when she stopped, God began to move. God gave strategies to this pastor and he has now closed down nine abortion clinics in his area.

The devil does not have the power to give life. He cannot give conception. And therefore, He seeks to undermine God’s power to give life. We, as God’s people of life must be truly pro-life. We must think pro-life. We must have God’s mind about pro-life. If we have the mindset to stop life by our own decision, or the pill, or other contraceptive devices, that’s not pro-life. It’s pro-choice.

When we limit our families and stop life coming into the world, it is an abortive spirit. It belongs to the kingdom of darkness, not God’s kingdom of life. God is pro-life! His first mandate to mankind was “Be fruitful, multiply, and fill the earth.” He did not say “Contracept, sterilize, and abort.” God wants His image to fill the earth.

May God give each one of us a truly pro-life thinking. To think like God thinks. To always be open to life. Until we come to this understanding, how can we win the battle against abortion? We must be totally against the spirit of abortion which is the same spirit as contraception.

Let’s be true battle soldiers for life.

Nancy Campbell

The subtle acceptance that life and death are in human hands lends itself to the belief that life is just a random act of biology, rather than a foreordained creation of an almighty and sovereign God.

As readily available and fairly reliable options for birth control became widespread, so did the belief that couples could “have their cake and eat it too,” so to speak. Both married and unmarried couples could now easily engage in the pleasures of sex without the fear of having to take responsibility for a child that could come from that union. It also removed any need for trusting in God in the area of conception, financial provision, sacrifice of health and personal goals, and all that's involved with having and rearing children.

Rather than believing what Scripture says about children always being gifts from God, the subtle attitude began to grow, even in the church, to the point where society at large sees children as a burden and disruption to better and more important things. There's not time here to go into all the ramifications and negative consequences that we are currently and will in the future suffer for having that attitude, but that's a different story.

In my humble estimation, it was at that point where the subtle devaluing of human life began, along with the belief that we are entitled to have pleasure without any commitment or responsibility. If life can be prevented in the first place (by using birth control), demonstrating the perception that children are an annoyance and disruption to personal space, is it really any different of a root attitude towards the sanctity and miracle of life than the choice to have an abortion?

I believe the acceptance of and even encouragement of the casual use of birth control propagates an attitude of selfishness and the idea that we are sovereign over our bodies and lives. I'm certainly no authority, but these are some of my thoughts on where the widespread devaluing of life may have started.

VAL HALLORAN
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There is no excuse for any member of the family to come to the family kitchen in the morning with a sour face and uncommunicative attitude. We must teach our children to come with a cheery Good Morning. Of course, as parents, we set the example.

As each one comes into your kitchen each morning, greet them with a smile and a cheery welcome such as, “Good morning, welcome to the day.” If they don’t give a cheery reply, keep saying it until they do. Get them into the habit.

Dear mothers, family life is where we prepare our children for marriage. Your children should never have to go to a marriage seminar to prepare for marriage. You are preparing them each day of their lives. You are training them into the right habits for their future lives.

What a terrible thing for a husband to wake up to a wife with a sour face and grumpy spirit. And non-communicative. That doesn’t build a marriage. It slowly pulls it down. Don’t ever let your children get into this habit in your home.

Don’t let them get into entitlement habits either. They will destroy their future marriage too. Deal with every negative habit in your children’s lives that would be detrimental to their future marriage, and the future success of their lives.

I cannot even believe how many parents allow their children to be a “wet rag” in the home, stay in their sour moods, or act selfishly.

Don’t allow it to continue for one minute! You are setting them up for heartache later on.

Blessings to you today from Nancy Campbell

This means we start at the beginning of life, even in the womb. 2 Timothy 3:15 gives us understanding. Paul writes to Timothy and says: “From a child thou hast known the holy Scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.”

I love the Message which says: “You took in the sacred Scriptures with your mother’s milk!” Don’t you love that? You can read the Word aloud to your baby as you nurse him or her at the breast. As your husband reads God’s Word to your family each day, your baby imbibes the Scriptures even as he nurses from the breast.

The word for “child” in this Scripture is revealing. It’s the Greek word “brephos” and from other Scriptures we see that it means:
a) a child in the womb (Luke 1:41, 44),
b) a newborn babe (Luke 2:12, 16), and
c) a little child as in 2 Timothy 3:15.

This Scripture also tells us that God’s living word leads us to salvation. A child growing up in a godly home where the Word is read daily will come to salvation at an early age. Some are ready for salvation at three or four years of age.

And the sooner our children receive God’s salvation the better it is. Satan wants the souls of our children. He subtly woos them from an early age.

Is your baby hearing the Word? Are your little toddlers being filled with God’s Word? And of course, are your older children being daily and richly filled with God’s Word? If you are not filling them with God’s Word, they will be filled with the influences and spirit of this world.

How can it be that little six-year-olds from Christian homes can know the words to worldly songs and yet not know the Scriptures?

Let’s fill them with the powerful, living, and eternal Word of God from their earliest moments.

Love rom Nancy Campbell

Painting: "Maternity," 1959 -- by Jurandir Ubirajara Campos (Brasil, 1903-1972).

I am sure you will be blessed, challenged, and inspired by the beautiful words in this poem from Anna Frey . . .

THE MOMMY I AM NOW!
I sometimes wonder what they will say
When my children have their own children someday
And they tell them about their mom,
The mommy I am now.

I hope they’ll say she treated their dad
Like the most noble king anyone ever had,
On his arm she loved to lean,
She was happy just to be his queen.
She supported him through thick and thin,
Stood by his side, smiling up at him.

I hope that’s what they will say
When they have their own children someday
And they tell them about their mom,
The mommy I am now.

I hope they’ll say she looked straight in our eyes,
She listened to us through our lows and highs,
She encouraged us, prayed for us, helped us do more
Than we ever thought we could have done before.

I hope they‘ll say she laughed and smiled,
She worked hard, but all the while
She whistled and sang, and you can be sure
The most mundane job was an adventure.

I hope that’s what they will say
When they have their own children someday
And they tell them about their mom,
The mommy I am now.

I hope they’ll say she loved braiding hair,
Playing outside and catching toads there,
She planned picnics, tea parties, and wooded tree forts,
Expeditions, outings, games of all sorts.

She said our giggles were her favorite sound,
We’d tickle each other ‘till we rolled on the ground,
And when she read a story, the book came alive,
We could hear all the voices if we tried.

I hope that’s what they will say
When they have their own children someday
And they tell them about their mom,
The mommy I am now.

When Mommy taught us something new,
Hearts mattered more than how much we could do.
And now as we look back and see
Because of the helpers she let us be . . .

Her jobs took longer and made more mess,
But she knew relationships were the best.
And she always would include us too
In all the things she had to do.

I hope that’s what they will say
When they have their own children someday
And they tell them about their mom,
The mommy I am now.

Mommy always said, without a doubt
We were the best friends she’d ever known about.
We knew she was our best friend too,
And felt quite certain it was true.

Whatever the day, the plan, the weather,
We were happy just to be together.
Side by side and hand in hand
We learned to grow and understand.

I hope that’s what they will say
When they have their own children someday
And they tell them about their mom,
The mommy I am now.

She would quickly say she that was sorry,
Ask forgiveness for when she got angry.
We often heard her pray and ask
For strength for this important task
Of raising us, for well she knew
It was far more than she could do.

But in His strength, she chose to rest
Knowing His will was the very best,
And living it with all her might,
She embraced it all day, and also night!

I hope that’s what they will say
When they have their own children someday
And they tell them about their mom,
The mommy I am now.

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But will you open the door
So that I can bring her in?
In exchange I’ll take
Your selfishness and sin.

I’ve created a masterpiece,
Uniquely designed for your family.
I’ve created a masterpiece,
By loving him, you’ll show your love for Me.

But will you open your heart
So that I can bring him in?
He will bring joy to your life,
You’ll never be the same again

I’ve created a masterpiece,
Believe the truth, don’t be deceived.
I’ve created a masterpiece
The world may scorn if you choose to receive.

So will you open your womb
So that I can plant this seed?
That will grow you in so many ways
And help you see I’m the One you need,
The Creator of this masterpiece!

PAULA SMITH
Pleasantville, Tennessee, USA
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Copyright ©2019 Holy Spirit (via Paula Smith).

It is endless and unselfish
And enduring come what may,
For nothing can destroy it
Or take that love away.

It is patient and forgiving
When all others are forsaking,
And it never fails or falters
Even though the heart is breaking.

It believes beyond believing
When the world around condemns,
And it grows with all the beauty
Of the rarest, brightest gems.

It is far beyond defining,
It defies all explanation,
And it still remains a secret
Like the mystery of creation.

A many-splendored miracle
Man cannot understand.
And another wondrous evidence
Of God's tender, guiding hand.

By Helen Steiner Rice

Painting by Helen Allingham

Please don’t miss the rewards of a lasting marriage. You will be so glad you pressed through. And you will be amazed at how God molds you together over the years as you allow Him. I know you’ll love this writing from Renee Ellison, DAILY DUO DOIN’ THE DISTANCE!
~ Nancy

“Most marriages are a struggle in the beginning, but surprisingly, after several decades each good marriage discovers that they HAVE someHOW, someWHAT settled into their own unique way of communicating and operating between the two very distinct and different personalities and modus operandi.

Each good marriage has been building this lifetime "date" into something bigger than both of them knew. This steadfast commitment becomes something better than we each imagined. Such marriages emerge on the other side as dependable lead pipes of stability and "comforting slippers" in one's life. Marvel of marvels.

It is so interesting to note that no two couple's marriages ever look the same. Each marriage is world’s different in likeness and kind, apparently God's very design and intent. He fashioned each set of believer's marriages to differ like stars differing from stars in glory. Perhaps "glory" is too strong a word—more like "ordinary daily duo doin' the distance!”

RENEE ELLISON
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I love being your mommy! It really is the best!
I feel like the most blessed woman in the entire Southwest!

I love watching your joy when you learn something new
Or when you want to play Go Fish all afternoon.

I love the flowers and leaves you all pick for me
And when you call my name wanting me to see.

I love days filled with chatter, hugs, and questions,
Teaching, training, and discipline lessons.

I love teaching you to read and write,
Each one of you are so very bright!

I love your grand imaginations when you play,
Each of you dreaming of who you’ll be one day.

When I’m grouchy and tired, thank you for forgiving me
A kinder, more patient mommy is who I pray to be.

Being your mommy has stretched me to see,
That life is no longer just all about me.

Some people say I’m crazy for having all of you,
We laugh on the way home because we know it’s not true!

My erratic sleeping patterns some may not desire,
But cuddling little babes in the night, of that I’ll never tire.

I don’t mind the time cooking you healthy food,
I’m learning to find joy in cooking for my little brood.

You see, nothing I’ve ever done or seen in my life
Compares to being your mother and your daddy’s wife.

I’m understanding the blessings that you all truly are,
Being your mommy is THE BEST CAREER by far!

LAUREN BECK * This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
Albuquerque, New Mexico, USA