God’s Word is true when it says: “You turn things upside down!” (Isaiah 29:16 (ESV). So much in our society today is the opposite to God’s original plan. It’s all turned upside down.
Let’s begin with the first institution God ordained—marriage. The average age for a first marriage for women is currently 27.4 years and 29.5 years for men. This is the longest Americans have waited to get married. And yet their desires for the opposite sex are awakened years before this.
I know so many beautiful girls in their mid-twenties, late-twenties, and even their thirties who long to be married. They truly are beautiful, inside and out, and long to have children and be the queen of their home. This is what God ordained.
But as I asked in a previous post, where are the men? Or perhaps I should ask, where are the men who are ready for marriage? Most young people today are not even psychologically geared for marriage. They are sent to college to train for their careers, but no one inspires them about the most basic of all careers, the career of parenting. It is rare to hear a pastor give a message about getting married and preparing yourself for marriage.
Because fewer couples are marrying at an earlier age, it becomes the vogue. Couples hang out together but don’t take the responsibility of getting married. Many are not truly ready as they are not ready to take on the responsibility of children. And if a couple are not ready for children, they are not mature enough to get married!
It’s not so much the age but the preparation of mind, hard work, saving (rather than flitting their money away on their entertaining lifestyle), and openness to the responsibility of providing for a wife and children that makes a man ready for marriage. I know many couples who have married young. They are so happy, providing well, embracing children, and more mature than many in their late twenties who are still too immature to even take on a wife!
Then there are those who just live together! We think of this as a worldly lifestyle, but it is creeping into the church. There are currently 18 million singles living with their partners! Sickening. Opposite to God’s plan. And what does God’s word say? “Know ye not that that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fonicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind . . . shall inherit the kingdom of God” (1 Corinthians 6:9, 10).
I think its time to encourage marriage, don’t you? That’s thinking like God thinks! God loves to see a young couple coming together in a godly union, because He designed marriage, and designed it to be wonderful.
I love the Scripture in Jeremiah 33:10, 11 where God gives His promise of blessing upon His people. He says: “Thus saith the LORD; Again There shall be heard in this place . . . The voice of ojoy, and the voice of gladness, the voice of the bridegroom, and the voice of the bride, the voice of them that shall say, Praise the LORD of hosts: for the LORD is good.” The joy of weddings is God’s blessing on the land.
Other Scriptures tell us about God’s judgment that there will no more be heard the voice of the bride and the voice of the bridegroom!
Well, I’ve been rambling on. You know, I’d love to set up a site with some profiles of some these precious young ladies I know and some young men who are also looking for godly wives – and perhaps they could connect! What do you think? Wouldn’t it be a good idea?
This is one of the secret visions I have for our Above Rubies Family Retreats, that when families come with all their children (including their teens and older ones in their twenties) that it will be a wonderful opportunity for them to meet other young people with the same vision and kindred spirit. Colin and I met at a Christian camp and I’m sure glad about that!
Love from Nancy Campbell