This aspect of God's love must be constantly role modeled in our home first, and then to others. It would be hypocritical to be known by our friends and acquaintances to be polite and gracious and yet be coarse and roughshod with our wife and family at home.
Christian men should act godly toward the opposite sex at all times. To be overly familiar with women, even in a general sense, can be rude, inappropriate, suggestive, and unseemly. We should not love in any way that appears questionable or that would stir up base instincts in the opposite sex. Unseemly behavior is often manifested in the form of coarse joking which contains elements of suggestive sexual innuendos. This type of conversation is not becoming to the love of God.
Talking other people down is also very demeaning and offensive. When others are speaking, we should not interrupt them, especially in public. It is unseemly to act impolitely without using common courtesy. Anger, shouting, and physical or verbal abuse to get our own way is uncalled for behavior. Even facial expressions, pounding of fists on tables, or cold icy moods are unseemly. Meanness to others is also unseemly to the love that God wants us all to role model.
Be encouraged.
Colin Campbell