Men, not only does anger destroy godly role modeling, but it is also one of the biggest contributors to marriage breakdown. Anger that is not kept in check and brought under the control of a strong disciplined mind and spirit is a wrecking ball that smashes down the strongest walls.
I do not believe that any woman should have to put up with this for long. She should encourage her husband to get counseling, as well as deliverance. If this does not happen, she should feel free to separate from her husband until she knows with all her heart that he has received victory and is walking in it. Sometimes it may take a separation to wake up a husband to the fact that he really needs help.
In many cases anger is generational and is passed on from father to son. Often the father will not discipline his son for outbursts of anger because he would feel a hypocrite for not addressing his own need.
Having said these things, there is a place for righteous anger, but it should be as the Scripture, says, without sin. Ephesians 4:26 says, "Be ye angry and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath." When there is violence, bad language, demeaning and destructing language that is hurtful and demoralizing, there is sin. And role modeling? Well, forget it.
Be encouraged.
Colin Campbell