MY HUSBAND’S HELPER
Part 6 (The Strengths I Bring to my Marriage and Family)
“Beauty is something internal that can’t be destroyed.
Beauty expresses itself in a gentle and quiet attitude which God considers precious.”
(1 Peter 3:4 GW).
8. STRONG TO EMBRACE FEMININITY
God has given to you the strength of femininity. He gave your husband the strength of masculinity. We are not a true helper to our husbands when we try to be masculine or take on his masculine mantle. He doesn’t need another person like him, he needs a woman--a feminine woman. I believe we should embrace our femininity in every area of life—speech, dress, deportment, and demeanor.
Men are naturally stronger than women with usually 50 percent more brute strength. They are built to have more muscle, broader shoulders, and stronger physique to lift heavy weights, do hard work, provide, and protect.
I know I am at odds with the feminist and liberal thinking of today, but I do not believe that women should be “on the ground combat” along with men. Did you know that since January 2016 all military jobs are now open to women? Obama’s Defense Secretary, Ashton B. Carter stated: “They’ll be allowed to drive tanks, fire mortars, and lead infantry soldiers into combat. They’ll be able to serve as Army Rangers and Green Berets, Navy SEALs, Marine Corps infantry, Air Force Para jumpers, and everything else that was previously open only to men. There will be no barriers at all in their way.” Have you ever read or watched the training Navy Seals must go through? It is unbelievably rigorous even for men and not what God intended for women.
Even before this new law, casualties for women in the military as of October 2015 include more than 1,000 wounded in action and at least 161 deaths. God did not create women to engage in battle, but to be the loving nurturers in our society. It sounds great to the liberal mind, but it is opposite to God’s Word!
1 Peter 3:8 says: “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them (your wives) according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” Fenton’s translation calls it: “assigning honour to their FEMININE NATURE, as to a weaker vessel.”
God calls wives “the weaker vessel.” That’s why He wants husbands to honor and protect them. The word honor means “value, esteem of the highest degree, dignity, preciousness.” Women were always honored in society. In a state of emergency men saved the women and children first. It would be difficult for a soldier to stop in the middle of battle to save a fellow female soldier (which should be am man’s instinct). And how can a female soldier forget protecting herself to save a fellow male soldier? One retired army major states: "If you look at the population demographics, most women—and you're talking thousands—cannot properly carry a 230-pound soldier with rucksack and combat vest on, off the battle field to save his life."
Men are now ignorant of how to honor women because of the brainwashing of feminism which negates the beauty of their femininity. They don’t know how to treat them “according to knowledge.” When they no longer see women as a prized possession to be protected and cared for, they do not know how to function correctly as men.
What about women who become officers and order other men what to do? This is also opposite to God’s plan for femininity. We don’t come into our marriage to order our husbands around. I’m ashamed to say that I have tried to do this, but it doesn’t work. Men hate it and run from it. It is not feminine. And although we think we may be helping our husbands, we actually destroy their masculinity and manhood.
The man who is tougher to face the knocks of the world looks for a woman who is soft in nature, warm in heart, and loving and accepting of him as a man. A real man doesn’t want to be like a woman and a real woman should not want to be like a man.
Why have we become a society that are victims to liberalism and a false agenda? Our strength is our femininity, not embracing the man’s role.
Blessings from NANCY CAMPBELL
“Dearest Father, thank you so much for your divine plan which is perfect. All your ways are perfect. Help me to embrace who You created me to be and to walk in the glory of femininity. This is how I bring glory to You because You created me for this purpose. Amen.”
My womanly strength is in my femininity, embracing the fulness of my femaleness.