Above Rubies Daily Encouragement Blogs

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Strengthening Families Across the World through the encouragement of women in their high calling from God as wives, mothers and homemakers.

WHAT DOES YOUR HUSBAND NEED MOST?

WhatHusbandNeedWhat do you think is your husband’s greatest need? What would be your answer?
 
After many years of marriage I have come to know the answer. More than love, more anything else husbands long for respect and honor. God created them to innately desire it. The reason is that marriage is the picture of Christ and the church. We who are the bride of Christ are to give honor and reverence to our heavenly Bridegroom. When we do this to our husbands we are showing the true picture of marriage.
 
What happens when we don’t respect our husbands? They withdraw. They become grumpy. They become distant. Often, they don’t even know why themselves, but it is because they are not receiving respect.
 
I am constantly challenged regarding this myself and continually need to remind myself that this is my husband’s greatest need.
 
Some time back I asked this question on Facebook. Here are some of the answers I received.
* Allow your husband to decide things.
* Ask his advice instead of giving it.
* Talk respectfully to him.
* Talk respectfully about him to others.
* Thank him for providing and working hard.
* Praise his good points instead of focusing on the not so good.
* Think of specific things about him that you're thankful for.
* Don't undermine him.
* Make sure dinner is ready for him when he comes home from work.
* Make his table place at the head of the table.
* Think of all the good things he does and focus your thoughts on them, then your thoughts will turn into respectful words and actions.
* Stop telling him your "better way of doing things.”
* Listen without talking. Let him finish talking without interrupting.
 
When we do it God’s way rather than our own way, we will be amazed at what happens.
 
Love and blessings,
 
NANCY CAMPBELL
 
P.S. Would love to hear more ideas from you on how to show respect to your husband.
 
 
Beautiful painting by Vickie Wade.
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A GOOD IDEA?

crabbyDon’t you think this is a good idea?
A happy mother makes a happy home! What is the atmosphere like in your home today?
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JUMPING JACKS

JumpingJacksJesus Christ was our supreme sacrifice. He became the sacrificial Lamb, slain upon the altar for our sins. His ultimate sacrifice gives us forgiveness of sins, victory over sin in our daily life, sweet fellowship with Him, and eternal life. Romans 12:1 beseeches us that our logical and reasonable response should be to yield our lives back to Him as a living sacrifice. What does this mean?
 
Because Jesus laid down His life to be our sacrifice, we should also lay down our lives to be a living sacrifice.
 
We face this principle every day as wives and mothers. Constantly we choose whether we will demand our own way, do what pleases us, or lay down our life for our husband, our children, and sacrifice our own selfish desires.
 
Sometimes this is a battle. We need to be constantly reminded of Psalm 118:27: “Bind the sacrifice with cords, even unto the horns of the altar.” We willingly lay our life upon the altar as we feel the moving of the Holy Spirit in our lives. But then we get back to the challenges of daily life and mothering and off the altar we jump!
 
We need His cords to bind us. What are the cords? God says in Hosea 11:4: “I drew them with cords of compassion, with bands of love.” He says again in Jeremiah 31:3 “Yes, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee.”
 
Because Christ now dwells in our hearts (if we have been born again), we no longer live to ourselves, “but unto him which died and rose again” (2 Corinthians 5:14). This lifestyle of dying daily to our own selfish desires does not ruin our lives. Instead, it releases us into the joyful life of serving that is the life of Christ (Mark 8:35).
 
I read about a mission board that had an ox for its seal. On one side of the ox was an altar, on the other side a plough. Their motto was “Ready for either.” There are millions of Christians being martyred for their faith today (more than at any other time). They are literally dying upon the altar. Others (like you and me) become a living sacrifice as we take up the plough of the daily grind of life. Not doing it grudgingly, but with joy and exhilaration.
 
May God save us from being jumping jacks--jumping off the altar as soon as anything becomes too difficult, looms bigger than we can imagine, or does not work out the way we planned. Instead may it become our lifestyle to be bound with joy to the altar. This is the least we can do in response to the ultimate sacrifice of Jesus Christ for us.
 
Love from Nancy Campbell
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STRENGTHEN YOUR FAMILY LIFE

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Gathering your family together for family meals is a wonderful way to strengthen family life.

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THE GOOD OR THE BEST?

GoodOrBestWe need great discernment to truly know what is good and what not just “looks good,” don’t we? Many times, things that are good rob us of the best! We can be involved I so many “good things” in our parenting and in Christian work and yet they are not God’s best. They are what we think is good. Or even what the enemy tricks us to think is good.
 
This is how Satan tempted Eve in the beginning. He didn’t tempt her with anything evil, but what looked good and wise (Genesis 3:6). If Eve could be so easily tempted who walked with God each day in the garden, how much more are we be susceptible to Satan who is “an angel of light.”
 
The greatest antidote to deception is God’s Word. It is our plumbline for everything we believe and do. It is also a great lie detector. Many times, we don’t know things are lies until we line them up with God’s Word.
 
One of the ways the enemy robs families of what is best is many of our extracurricular activities. None of them are bad. They are all good. And yet often they rob us of what is the most important.
The tricky thing is that most of them are always about the time we should be in the home preparing the meal for the family so we can enjoy family togetherness around the table each evening. And of course, to have family devotions and worship together. And pray together.
 
The devil hates families praying, and he will use good things to stop us. He’ll get us doing all these great things for our children, which are good, but which stop us from coming together as a family to pray. And the devil laughs. He wins the victory.
 
It’s praying families who are world-changing families. And as you know, this doesn’t easily happen. It takes a complete life change in our families to make it happen. But world-changing families are also sacrificing families. They’re families who know what is the BEST, not only what is good.
 
Blessings,
 
Nancy Campbell
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THE TONE OF VOICE

VoiceToneTHE TONE OF VOICE
 
It’s not so much what you say
As the manner in which you say it,
It’s not so much the language you use
As the tone in which you convey it.
 
“Come here” I said,
And the child cowered and wept.
“Come here,” I said—
He looked and smiled,
And straight to my lap he crept.
 
Words may be mild and fair,
And the tone may pierce like a dart,
Words may be soft as the summer air,
But the tone may break my heart.
 
For words come from my mind
Grow by study and art—
But tone leaps from the inner self
Revealing the state of the heart.
 
Whether you know it or not,
Whether you mean or care,
Gentleness, kindness, love, and hate,
Envy, anger, are there.
 
Then, would you quarrels avoid
And peace and love rejoice?
Keep anger not only out of your words—
Keep it out of your voice.
 
~ Unknown
 
 
Painting: Arthur John Elsley
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TEARING DOWN OR BUILDING UP?

TearingBuildingTEARING DOWN OR BUILDING UP?
 
I saw them tearing a building down,
A team of men in my hometown,
 
With a heave and a ho and yes, yes, yell!
They swung a beam and a sidewall fell.
 
And I said to the foreman, “Are these men skilled
Like the ones you’d use if you had to build?”
 
And he laughed and said, “Oh no, indeed,
The most common laborer is all I need,
 
For I can destroy in a day or two
What it takes a builder ten years to do.”
 
So I thought to myself as I went my way,
Which one of these roles am I willing to play?
 
Am I one who is tearing down,
As I carelessly make my way around?
 
Or am I one who builds with care
To make the world better because I was there?
 
~ Author Unknown.
 
Dear mother, I believe these words apply also apply to us as we build our homes and families. Proverbs 14:1 says: “Every wise woman builds her house: but the foolish plucks it down with her hands.”
 
One of the names God gives to us as mothers is “builder.” Because He names us builders, He wants us to be professional builders. A common laborer can tear down a house, but it takes a professional to build a good home.
 
Let’s be those who build into our marriages and families each day.
 
Don’t let a day go by without building a little more into your marriage. Think of something lovely and kind to say to your husband today and each new day. Your greatest building weapons are the words that come out of your mouth.
 
Seek to do something each day to make your family life stronger. Remember, you are building into your children’s lives until the day you present your children “in the presence of our Lord Jesus Christ at his coming” (1 Thessalonians 2:19).
 
Have a beautiful day with your family,
 
Nancy Campbell
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ARE YOUR CHILDREN GROWING UP IN HIS PRESENCE?

InHisPresenceIn Bible times God had a tabernacle and later a temple where He deigned to dwell in the midst of His people. Today, we have no temple, but God is a dwelling God and He still loves to dwell in our homes.
 
One of the most beautiful things we can do as a mother and homemaker is to make our homes a dwelling place for the living God. I love the Scripture in Hebrews 9:1 (JBP) where it tells us about God’s sanctuary “a holy place in this world for the eternal God.”
 
This morning I read Psalm 84:1-3 (NLT): “How lovely is your dwelling place, O LORD of Heavens Armies . . . Even the sparrow fins a home, and the swallow builds her nest and raises her young at a place near your altar, O LORD of Heaven’s Armies, my King and my God!”
 
This is such a beautiful word to us mothers. How often we feel overwhelmed and wish we had more time to read God’s word and spend time in His presence. But how do we do this with little babies and toddlers and even older ones all vying for our attention. It seems impossible.
 
But dear mothers, we need to think of our homes as God’s sanctuary and each room as an altar of the Lord. Instead of thinking we have no time to spend with God to realize that we are living in His presence. As you dedicate your home to Him to be His sanctuary, you are living in His presence. Even in the midst of bedlam and all the needs of your little children, remember that you are making a nest for your children in the presence of the Lord.
 
Just as the sallow built her nest in the temple of God, you are making nest where you can lay your young ones in His presence. As you nurse your baby on your rocking chair, think of it as an altar as you pray for this child and dedicate him or her to God.
 
When you sit at your table with your children realize it is an altar where you feed your children body, soul, and spirit. As your husband reads God’s word at the end of the meal you too will find sustenance as the Scriptures are read.
 
You can make every room in your home an altar. I remember one time when my children were little and I longed, like the psalmist, to be in the courts of the Lord. How could I get away alone? Of course, it’s impossible when you have little children.
 
I remember taking my four under four into the bedroom and closing the door. I kneeled by my bed and began to pour out my soul to the Lord. As I entered into His courts, I began to feel His presence with me.
 
Suddenly there was a knock on my door. A guy who was boarding at our place was home and began shouting, “Please calm down those children, I can’t sleep!” I was so enjoying the Lord’s presence I wasn’t even aware of all the noise the children were making!
 
This psalm continues: Vs 4 – 6: “What joy for those who can live I your house, always singing your praises. What joy for those whose strength comes from the LORD . . . When they walk through the Valley of Weeping, it will become a place of refreshing springs.”
 
Make your home a dwelling place for God where your children can grow up near the altars of the Lord.
 
Blessings to you today,
 
Nancy Campbell
 
 
 
Painting: Polina Luchanova, Russia
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THE BLESSEDNESS

BlessednessI have been thinking of the blessedness of motherhood. Yes, along with the blessedness is hard work and heartache. However, I believe that the devil robs mothers of the joys and glory of motherhood. Because God ordained motherhood and created us for this high purpose, the devil hates it. He hates what God mandates. He feeds us with lies to think we are wasting our lives when in fact, we are fulfilling the very perfect will of God. When we embrace motherhood, we are on God’s side.
 
No other woman can compare with the highest favor that was ever given to a woman, a young teenager named Mary who was privileged to carry the Son of God in her womb. The angel called her “highly favored” in Luke 1:28 and 30. This privilege was given to only one woman in the whole of history.
 
However, each time a new baby is conceived in a womb, it is also a God moment. It is God who gives the conception. It is God who creates this new, precious life in the womb—a life that has never lived before and there will never be anyone like this one again. And because God gives life and loves life, His favor is also upon every pregnant woman.
 
In the original Greek, the word for “highly favored” is “charitoo.” This word was never used before the New Testament! It means “to be accepted, to give grace to.” It was God’s grace to Mary to receive the privilege to carry Jesus in her womb. It is also God’s grace to us to carry a life in our womb.
 
Dear mother, don’t be deceived by the lies of the world and society around you. There is no higher mission you can do in your life than to carry a new human being, and more truthfully, an eternal soul in your womb.
 
Embrace the blessedness. Embrace the truth. Live in the joy of it. Live in the glory of it. Lift up your head for you are doing something eternal. Everything else you do in life will be left behind, but you will take this precious child into the eternal realm with you if you are faithful to lead him/her to salvation.
 
What an amazing assignment. You are giving a child the opportunity and privilege to experience the glory of eternity with Christ forever. It’s only in the “forever glory” that you will truly understand the enormity and power of carrying a child in your womb.
 
Be blessed,
 
Nancy Campbell
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GOD’S SIDE OR THE DEVIL’S SIDE?

GodsSideI wonder if we really understand the power of God’s words that He releases into the universe. He spoke, and the worlds came into being. All it took was for God to open His mouth and speak.
 
And then we read the first words He spoke to the man and woman He created: “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion . . .” These are not idle words. They are a divine mandate. They are an eternal law which progresses to a conclusion. The people who obey this law and are fruitful are the people who will take dominion.
 
Satan knows God’s plans and seeks to thwart them. God wants His people to be fruitful and take dominion for Him in the earth. He wants His image to be revealed in the earth. He wants the revelation of His name, His salvation, truth, love, compassion, and righteousness to fill the earth.
 
The easiest way for the devil to stop the image of God filling the earth is to subtly brainwash God’s people to stop having children. He has been very successful. Most Christians today think God’s first mandate are idle words. They have been deceived to think they don’t have to take any notice of them at all. They think they have a better way than God.
 
How can we be true believers in God’s infallible Word if we don’t think His words are important? Eternal? Jesus said: “Heaven and earth shall pass away, but my words shall not pass away” (Matthew 24:35).
 
Most people in the church have the same small families as the world. Most believers are so entrenched in this world system that they continue sending their children to public schools and colleges where they are propagandized in liberal doctrine, alternative lifestyles, transgenderism, and antagonism to God and His Word.
 
When will God’s people begin to stand on God’s side instead of the devil’s side?
 
Blessings from Nancy Campbell
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THE GRAND DESIGN

FemininityOnly two: male or female; feminine or masculine. Completely embrace who God created you to be. You bring glory to God when you live to the full who God created you to be. There’s no need to be confused.

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WHERE ARE YOUR EYES TODAY, MOTHER?

WhereEyesToday

Keep your eyes on Jesus! He is bigger than the problems that are facing you.

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MOTHER - YOU ARE A LIFE-GIVER

Life giverMotherhood is the most powerful, far-reaching, influential career in the nation! Babies and children cannot survive without mothers. Families cannot survive without mothers. Nations will fail without mothers. It’s time for mothers to come back to the home.

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ALWAYS BE THE BEST!

BestEmployeeMother, God has chosen you and you are the BEST mom for your children.

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DON'T BE SQUEEZED INTO THE WORLD'S MOLD

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Make sure that everything you believe and teach your children lines up with God’s word.

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FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE

abovelisteningThe devil loves to break up marriages and he begins by putting negative and deceiving thoughts in your mind. You don’t have to listen to them. Resist them in the name of Jesus. Think of the good things about your husband. Thank the Lord for them. Tell your husband the good things you are thinking about him. When you focus on the positive, everything will become positive. When you focus on the negative everything becomes destructive.

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IS YOUR SPIRIT CONTENT?

GodlyContentment“Godliness with contentment is great gain.” A contented spirit brings a peaceful and happy atmosphere to the home.

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DON'T COME DOWN

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Don’t let the negative things friends or family may say about you homeschooling or having another baby keep you from your God-anointed task. Motherhood is the greatest career God has given to women. Don’t come down from the great work you are doing.

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PRAY AND AIM FOR THE HIGHER GROUND

AboveGrumblingThere is a better way to live than on this lower plane of grumbling and self pity which only hurts you and everyone else around you.
 
My heart has no desire to stay
Where doubts arise and fears dismay,
Though some may dwell where these abound,
My prayer, my aim, is higher ground.
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KEEP YOUR EYES UPON THE LORD

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He is bigger than all your problems and frustrations. When you focus on your situation, you will stay bogged in it. When you fix your eyes upon the Lord, He will show you the answer!

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