Men, I think the greatest attack from the arsenal of the enemy is the gradual breakdown of Christian marriages. It is heartbreaking that over 50 percent of Christian marriages end in divorce and multitudes of other marriages are barely making it. This sad state of affairs drastically weakens the godly well-being of the family.
What makes it even more tragic is that this behavior has to a large degree come an acceptable way of life in our 21st century Christian culture. While some children may be able to handle it better than others, who can tell what deep inner wounds have been made both psychologically, as well as spiritually, to all family members. The truth is, to not be hurt or wounded reveals a certain hardness of heart that God is not pleased with.
I am certainly not trying to make people who have had a marriage breakdown feel condemned. Rather, I desire with the Holy Spirit's help to awaken the church to the fact that we are not the church God intends us to be. Prevention is better than cure. However, God is indeed merciful and offers healing to those who are meek and repentant enough to receive it.
We must not delay any longer in taking affirmative action to correct the way we speak to each other as married couples. Your words and attitudes have the power to destroy or heal your marriage.
Proverbs 14:1 says, "A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger."